01 | text 💀 not dating advice

[stillarhino]

Type: text

Sender ID: stillarhino (Beat)
To: Everyone
Subject: A little help
Warnings: None

i kinda need some advice too and it aint really about dating
if something happened and you messed up big time
like REALLY messed up
howd ya go about making up to someone who got caught up in it
i wanna let them know that im sorry for real you know

hit me with whatcha got

[Was this supposed to be anonymous? No. Was this is supposed to be filtered away from Futaba? Yes. But is not... because someone forgot. Whoops.]

Comments

un: paridisaea

[empyrean_mirror]

...I suppose I've never been very good at this.

But I'd tailor the apology to how you messed up. Something specific, like remaking something you broke, or doing things you hate to get them things they wanted but couldn't have...I suppose this problem's probably bigger scale than that, but you get the idea.

The important thing is...trust is hard to repair. But it's not impossible. Things that may not seem to have helped at first might be stepping stones to healing.

[stillarhino]

good or not im just trying to get some ideas on what to do
so i appreciate you still wanting to gimme a hand yo

but you dont gotta tell me twice about fixing trust
i know its gonna take helluva lot more than just saying sorry
but whatchu mean things that didnt help at first?

[empyrean_mirror]

well

hypothetically it might take a lot of time, and those gestures don't make that person feel any less hurt. So maybe they don't really consciously appreciate them until much later.

But it still mattered. It still helped. Just not quite so easily as anyone would like.

voice un;catsgothistongue

[catsgothistongue]

Depends. How badly didja screw up here?

[I'm afraid Ranma isn't well acquainted with tact.]

not here (yet)

[empyrean_mirror]

[sondaughter what is he going to DO with you]

[stillarhino]

being real with ya
i aint sactly great at waiting for later
figured i can least get ahead of it cause its still fresh and all

[empyrean_mirror]

does your impatience matter more than making it right, to you?

[stillarhino]

[He replies with voice as well, letting out the longest sigh.]

Bad enough that I ain't sure if this shit's ever happened to someone 'fore.

[stillarhino]

...nah nothings more important than making it up to her

[empyrean_mirror]

Then just be patient with her. The words don't won't mean much until you can prove you mean them.

also not here

[catsgothistongue]

[someone has to get to the meat of the issue, dad. sometimes you gotta be forward!]

[stillarhino]

imma do that then
just wish it was easier to fix tho
this on toppa her birthday coming up is making it harder to think of something to do for her

text | un: astudyinviolet

[astudyinviolet]

I would start with an honest apology. You owe them that at the very least. Don't make it about yourself, and don't expect them to forgive you.

un: book2thehead

[book2thehead]

Proper apologies are always the best way to start, of course, but proving that you mean it through your actions is the most important. It will take time, so you'll have to be patient, but if this person is truly important to you then the hard work of proving yourself is worth it.

I assume no one is physically hurt, though?

un; ohwowzers

[ohwowzers]

[Ironically, Kieran actually has some advice on this. But it takes him a while to form a reply; partly because he's never really been the best at talking to strangers, partly because he's getting used to using the Shellphones, and partly because what is that username of his??]

[Eventually, he puts something together.]

Well, I think the first thing you gotta do is say sorry.

[stillarhino]

i...

[Don't expect her to forgive him, huh? Reading that makes his heart ache. Text definitely was the way to go for this. He wouldn't have been able to hide his frustration otherwise.]

i already said sorry and meant it
i just wanna do more

[stillarhino]

nah aint no ones hurt like that
but thats what im asking
saying sorry was the first thing i did!
but i dunno what else i can do to prove it

[stillarhino]

done with step one yo
looking for stuff for step two
and three and four if ya got something

[book2thehead]

Well, it's hard to give better suggestions without knowing any specifics about your case.

[empyrean_mirror]

Just make sure she doesn't have to spend it alone.

I'm sure that'll mean the most to her.

not here

[mwehehe]

[how is he this cute, she'll pretend she didn't see it.

...but he should know she's always watching. mwehehe.]

[ohwowzers]

Well did you ask them what you can do to help fix things?

Video; un: halfdog because he is incapable of texting

[halfdog]

[ Why is this place full of failationships?

ALSO HOW THIS SUDDENLY BECOME AN ADVICE HOTLINE and why is inuyasha replying to all of them

Many things will remain a mystery ]

Did ya actually do something wrong or were you told that?

text; id: flamekthunder

[flamekthunder]

Assuming you already did the basic step, how does the other person feel about what happened? Did they accept or refuse?

not here either

[stillarhino]

[He forgets that she's always watching... But he's trying very hard for her.]