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Subject: Relationship advice?
Warnings: N/A just a guy being sappy

I've been thinking about something lately and I figure I might as well ask the rest of you for a bit of advice.

I realised it's coming up on a year since I met my partner, pretty soon here. I've never really dated anyone seriously before, or paid much attention to these things at all if I'm honest.

What sort of thing do most people do for a first anniversary? How… big of a deal is it generally considered to be? I don’t want to go overboard or anything but I’d like to do something nice.

Maybe some of you could share traditions from your worlds?

Thank you.

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[Faulk you have no idea what you've unleashed.]

Well, I don't think the Akademiya's traditions are going to be of much help for you unless you intend to publish a research paper.

But for more common people, exchanging hand-picked gifts, or hand-made ones, and sharing a meal together is usually pretty traditional. A lot of people say it works best if you cook the meal together.

[ Right now he's glad someone answered! ]

I don't think that's very likely, no.

Those are all very sweet. I usually cook by myself, but I'm sure I could find them something to help with.

It's really just finding a way to spend time together and celebrate. I think that's really what matters most, more than making a spectacle of it.

Unless you both like making a spectacle of it.

congratulations.
what you're asking is rather personal. do you think your partner would appreciate the gesture? that's the first question you should be asking yourself.
if they would be confident in anything else you know of them.

[ But a suggestion couldn't hurt... ]

where i'm from, it's common to plan a date.
where did you happen to meet?

first off - awww, congrats!

second, i'm not really big on the romance department, but maybe you could recreate your first date?

I kind of think it depends on the both of you. Are you both the sort that want to make a big deal out of it or just kind of keep it low key?

I don't know that either of us is much for spectacle, no.

I just want to make sure they feel important, you know?

[ He'll switch this reply to private, just because answering that sort of thing will make it more obvious who this is. ]

I don't think they're expecting any big gesture or the type to be disappointed in a lack of one, but I think they'll appreciate it. I like special occasions and making them feel special.

We didn't meet anywhere very interesting I'm afraid; I was just exploring Eltrut and taking photos. There is a little cafe we went to after, though.

Thank you! Truly never expected to find something like this.

I like that idea. That'd be fun, actually.

[ Maybe not the exact details, but it would be nice to ask Keigo to take him on a little flight now that his wings are entirely healed. ]

We tend to keep things relatively low key, in general. But I also like special occasions and giving things weight.

And they're very important to me.

what's important to you matters too. you don't need anything over the top

do you remember the cafe? that sounds like the perfect place to mark the occasion

Mind sharing the deets? Now I'm kinda curious how it went!

You know what, sure, but I'll switch over here so he doesn't see me talking about him. This is Faulkner.

[ Della's his friend, he might as well just talk to her without the pretense. ]

I was testing one of those cameras out for Kaveh, and Hawks stepped in the way of one of my shots. I asked if he wanted to pose and then we got to talking.

I was curious if he could fly with those wings and he decided to answer that by picking me up and flying off. Which was admittedly a little bit terrifying.

But once I was pretty sure he wasn't going to drop me we talked a lot more, and he helped me get some impressive shots of Eltrut from the air.

Then he offered to buy me coffee and we spent a while at a little cafe. He was very sweet and we made plans to keep spending time together.

I do not have a tradition from my world to offer, but I have noticed that there is a pattern in this world. Whenever a person seems to make a post about their loved one on the shellphone, there is wedding announcement in the near future.

That pattern only seems to break when one party returns home.

[ Sherlock, why? ]

maybe i ought to find a dentist here, cause that was all so sweet i might have even more cavities!

You think you're getting cavities? It's been a year and this man still brings me chocolate every time I see him.

[ Okay, sometimes it's other gifts. But still. ]

I'm not real good at any dating stuff, but I heard some things from my friends back home before.

What kind of stuff do you guys like doing normally?

I don't think what you do really matters so much as why you do it. You should do something that you know will mean something to both of you! Something that will make both of you very happy. Maybe you could get them a small gift that reminds you of how you met? Or go to your favorite place here for a meal together!

awwww that is so cute

and kinda concerning

how does he pay for all that?

Then there's your first answer. I don't think it's a bad thing to want to make something more out of an important date.

Some people like to revisit important locations or even create their own traditions.

Yes, I've stopped by it a couple of times. That does sound like a nice idea.

I have been trying to think of a good gift, now that you mention it. But yes, I think you're right about that.

Quests and such?

I may have been exaggerating a little. And I cook for him and whatnot a lot. Try to make sure it evens out.

maybe I can help! Is there anything big that reminds you of when you met? Or something you see that makes you think of them?

if you talk to the cafe ahead of time, they might be able to help with anything you want to plan

Well, long as you're both happy, who am I to say anything? I haven't been on a date in a long

long

LONG time

[She has no qualms about saying who she is regarding this because she has one himbo that she's proud of :')]

Going out on a sappy date is the norm I think in Shibuya, but if that's what you wanna do, why let it stop you? Go do something you both enjoy, but it makes it better because you're doing it with someone you LIKE.

I mean I guess you could go out and cause some chaos too, if that's what you enjoy. [No she's not talking from experience, what do you mean] Rope your partner into some weird scheme to be a gremlin, profit. Win win for the both of you.

We spend a lot of time together, look for nice places to go. Honestly I never really went on dates before here, and we're both maybe still figuring out what sort of things people do for fun.

Creating our own tradition sounds lovely, too. I just wondered what sort of things were common.

[He's very new at all this. ]

That could be cute. Wonder if they'd feel too put on the spot, though.

how much time do you have? the more notice you give the easier it should be to accommodate

Well, to be fair I was never really on serious dates before him. Guess I haven't got much to compare to, but I am very happy.

Well, I can't really say for sure what might be a good date idea, but when I'm hanging out with friends, we usually have some kind of movie night or go out to eat somewhere together. We'd also plan some kinda outing so we could let our Pokemon have some fun, but I don't think that would work for you.

Gah, if I had my sister's manga, I might be able to get some more ideas for you.

[ Well, unfortunately that manages to give him something brand new to be neurotic about. Even if it’s just Sherlock’s observations, he absolutely hates the idea that those are somehow the two options. He doesn’t want to think about either of them going home, but marriage, specifically?

Even if he actually thought that was something Keigo was likely to agree to, he’s not sure how he feels about the idea. To be tied to someone that way, even someone he loves enough that he desperately doesn’t want to lose them? He doesn't necessarily fear the idea of commitment, but he’s never exactly been fond of the idea of marriage and… everything that tends to entail.

He thinks about white robes dragging him down.

He thinks about a particular folk story.

Tomorrow I will be married. But I also know that it can’t be true, because this is not who I am. It is not who I will ever be. I cannot give myself up to be shaped by this match and this commitment. I cannot be bound into this life that they have planned for me.

Then become something else, the Trawler-man says—

…Sorry Sherlock, you’re getting left on read for a while. ]

and to be fair to myself i was tck on the moon so the dating pool was pretty small

anyway the important thing? you both being happy. that's all that matters!

[Well, this response gets a laugh. ]

Seems like that's always true, yes.

I suppose a little chaos can be fun sometimes, if it's mostly harmless. You get up to a lot of that?

Yeah sometimes. More fun that way instead of always just walking along the beach, hand in hand, talking about the sunset or something. Playing pranks together on those beachgoers though? Waaaay better memories.

Well, flight, birds, and feathers are some obvious ones, for how we met and the person in general. Maybe too obvious, really. There's also a little cafe we went to when we met, and some photographs I took.

About a week. If I go with first meeting and first date, at least. It was a little longer before things were official.

Movies might be a little tricky here, and I'm the only one with pets. But those certainly all sound fun.

Oh? I'm not sure I know that word.

That would make it tricky, yes.

I am pretty certain we're both very happy. Still a little hard to believe if I'm honest

what if you put photos into a photobook along with bird feathers that remind you of him? maybe also take them to the cafe for dinner! maybe you could even find someone that could make a pendant for you in the shape of a bird feather. specifically one that really reminds you of them! you could even add a feather entwined for both of you. or jewels to symbolize you both

[ He might feel a little called out on enjoying that brand of boring and sappy so far. But he's still amused. ]

It does sound like it'd make for funnier ones, I'll admit that.

Yeah? Well, maybe you could uh... they have other types of fun activities here? Instead of a movie or something.

Oh! Right, well, manga is a kind of comic that's pretty popular where I'm from. It's different from other kinds of comics though, since it's a specific Kantonian style. They tend to confuse folks who aren't from Kanto, Hoenn, Johto, or Sinnoh because they're read right-to-left instead of left-to-right.

I like all those ideas a lot.

I might be able to make something like that myself, actually. With a little help, at least. I've been starting to learn to make jewelry, things with stones and magical effects.

making it yourself would be the best! id love something like that from my partner. it'd be meaningful in a lot of ways.

Why's that? You're totally loveable!

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